Down With Dating.

Dating… That awfully awkward process of having to get to know someone – forcibly. Maybe I’m being a bit too pessimistic describing it as ‘force’ but it does get tedious after a while no? Understandably, dating isn’t something that comes naturally and it does require some attempts before you can get it right.

I think my problem with dating arose when I came into contact with a serial dater. Yes the type that can’t just see one person at a time and actually get to know a person, the one who must date several people at once and then be blatant about it… I understand that it works for some, but for many the process of getting to know someone is just that – getting to know someone and it must be confusing when you see each person. Just imagine turning up for a date with ‘number three’ and you mistakenly ask them how their job interview went, but it was actually ‘number two’. Get my gist?

I unfortunately had the pleasure of being ‘number two’ less than a year ago when the guy who I thought only had eyes for me, neglected to tell me he had started seeing someone. The joke was, we didn’t even get to enjoy the actual ritual of going on a date. I had an outfit picked out too. I eventually got over the initial shock and decided to make like Elsa and let it go. Since then I’ve opted for nights in after work watching Bridget Jones and engaging in a ‘ménage a trois’ with Ben & Jerry.

As I mentioned earlier, some people just don’t have the confidence to date. I guess that’s what speed dating is for… Ew. I’m sorry, but if I wanted to go through a circle of hideously cringe-y males I would pay more attention to my Grindr. So why not try the opposite, Feeling Gloomy have decided to cater for those who can’t stand dating and apparently can’t stand life either in the form of “Down with Dating.” Basically you get a group of ‘haters’ together and you just get together and talk about the things you hate rather than the usual date talk. Apparently it’s helped people find lasting love… I guess love really does conquer all! Call it anti-dating if you will. If I’m being honest, it’s a very British thing – complaining – I see it becoming a really big thing. I’d recommend if moaning and dark, gloomy days are your thing.

Maybe I’m just a (not-so) secret hater who needs to get himself a date. I understand the whole concept of dating, I just think when it comes to affairs of the heart – things should never be put in a blender and packaged. Voila.